A woman of today strives for independence yet wants to be treated like a princess. A man is expected to respect a woman's desire to be treated as an equal, yet we are likewise expected to treat a woman like a princess. You can't be a princess if we are not your prince. To be a woman's prince a man needs to be treated like one. It is a conundrum because in modern love women no longer have any desire or need to please a man. It is now entirely about pleasing a woman and men are deftly aware of this change. Most importantly, we've accepted it thus leaving the field empty with few princes to go around. Women see this as too many princesses and not enough princes, when in reality there is a prince for every woman – they are merely being minimized and adulterated by the politics of modern love.
Men are beginning to understand that when it comes to love, women are consumed with what other women think when in fact all they really need to care about is what the one man the intend to love thinks. After all, you'll spend the rest of your life with him, not with people you hardly know. While a woman is busy outmaneuvering her girlfriends or guided by water cooler insecurities, they fail to realize that years later, the petty issues they pined over were foolish in comparison to the value of having a man still in their lives that loves them for what they always were.
A woman fights hard to be recognized for her brains not her beauty, but nature programmed us to be attracted physically. You know it (women), we know it (men). It is why it's called 'animal attraction'. A woman now fights her instinct to be 'protected' and 'loved'. She has traded the value of love for those perceived virtues. Men don't see a woman who can self-sustain as a virtue. We know the reality is we must then out-earn you to be worthy of your respect. We must accomplish more than you in order to be worthy. Women may reject this statement as an insult, but it is not an insult. It is true, and that may be hard to face without wanting to find some righteous defense such as 'being offended'. We (men) must earn more, do more, be more in order to assume the dominant role (which in reality every woman wants) in the relationship otherwise a woman rejects the male before courtship begins or resents the male after it's established. Women will settle, but only long enough to get what they want and move on, discarding the male so she can return to her self-sustaining lifestyle. If you are a man in love, your worst nightmare is to slip behind your mate in this constant race. In short, a woman does put a price on love.
In today's modern world men recognize that women have now taken on the mentality of a male. Women have taken over the sexual profile which males historically held. Sex to the younger women of today is of no serious consequence and 'open' relationships are easy decisions for women as they are 'self-sustaining' with financial independence from a man. Until an overwhelmingly strong man of greater financial means arrives, women no longer even need a man to reach hard to get objects on high-shelves; instead women only need men for casual sex, and in this arena, you must be attractive to fill her specific sexual desires, from a great body to knowledge of love making. Whatever it is, she has a checklist and you must fill it before she ever meets you or you are of no long-term consequence. Men privately know that a woman with a checklist is never going to fill it, but who are we to tell her this? Whom among us are lucky enough to find a great woman roaming the grocery isle? No. Instead we find solace in our hobbies which should be ones based on self-improvement otherwise we are of no value to a woman. Instead we men are left to online dating where God forbid your photo doesn't show too much skin or too little. You are discriminated if you do or don't smile, are active or not active, appear too boyish or too busy at work. Meanwhile so few women depart from their checklist to understand the value of chemistry and conversation with men they would really only have met had they been roaming the grocery store isle. And again, men understand and accept this reality. Men have come to learn the difference between a woman that have children, are career women, recently divorced and the list goes on. But in every case, they all share a common thread; they want a prince while rarely deciding they need to earn the role of princess too. Modern love is now about understanding the agenda of each individual woman. Beyond all these points, men are aware we are compartmentalized in the world of women. How can we be a prince in these circumstances?
You can't be our princess if you don't let us be your prince. It is in the end for a woman to decide.